Dating a professional colleague
As Anna, 27, who dated a coworker for seven months, points out, "It's hard to pretend like you're not dating someone for eight hours a day." But you can do your best to make others comfortable by nixing the "We're so cute" act."People are out with long knives for the happy couple," says Green."Nowadays work and life are very integrated." In that light, these stats aren't surprising: 37 percent of people have dated a coworker, according to a 2015 survey by Career Builder, and 30 percent of those relationships ended in marriage (proving that an office romance is not always a disaster).Still, dating at work can be a personal and professional minefield."Even today a boss-subordinate relationship is viewed as strategic on the woman's part," says Rebecca Chory, Ph.
But the caution was worth it: Five years after that first date, he proposed.No, Really: Avoid the Boss According to HR consultant Laurie Ruettimann, most written policies prohibit employees from dating only a direct boss or subordinate. Experts spoke with discourage manager-subordinate romances because they create the perception (or reality) of favoritism; in a worst-case scenario, both parties could be fired or dragged through a harassment lawsuit.And women are disproportionately judged for these relationships, whether they're the boss—"With great power comes great responsibility," warns Green—or if they're the underling.A decade ago their romance would have been expressly forbidden.
(You know the old saying about not, um, where you eat.) But as more Americans postpone marriage until their careers are established—and as hours get longer, with smartphones blurring work and play—it makes sense that attitudes are changing.
"Reporting a relationship improves your odds of avoiding an awkward situation when word gets out," says Green. Jennifer, 25, an accountant, kept quiet about her relationship—until she and her boyfriend were assigned to the same project.