Dating and sex for nerds and nice guys
I didn’t feel that I should go out of my way to be nice because I liked being nice. There are some women who want the nice guy because they understand that nice means good and not nice means bad. They aren’t very open, keeping mostly to themselves – that’s mysterious.More than that, I thought that’s what women wanted: men who were nice. However, most women seem to have the concepts confused. They distance themselves and give the cold shoulder whenever they don’t want something from you; it makes her ego crazy – why doesn’t he want her? If he just got to know her better, he would surely fall for her. Not because she's not lovable but because he isn’t loving.Then they wonder why they can't get or keep a nerdy boyfriend. Okay, so maybe most girls aren't THAT specific in their list of requirements, but you get the point. I've noticed that a lot of girls think it's okay to make fun of the nerdy guy they are crushing on or dating. Nerds have had to put up with ridicule for years, why would they want to put up with it from their girlfriend?Just like guys who fantasize about super models, women have some very unrealistic expectations from the men they date. In order to date a nerd, you may have to settle for that short, fat, freckled guy with glasses and a stuttering problem. Another thing you should avoid doing is making fun of or laughing at other nerds, as we also find that very offensive.
If being a bad boy gets you laid while being a nice guy gets you either ignored or abused, then guess which type most men choose to be. But only until he realized that the girl had absolutely no interest in him.
So here's my list of reasons why I believe women have trouble dating nerds. You do not understand "nerd culture" or even try to.